The "Dreaded" Mother in Law

Myth: Everyone hates their mother in law. Lets try to understand this better:

The Mother in Law- her son is getting married to a girl which in her mind means that he is replacing her with another woman. Being a mother has made me realize that mothers in general have a very special bond with their sons, and want to keep them close for as long as possible, if not forever. If you are a girl, you are the new woman, who in essence is competition! So how do you avoid the stress of the over-bearing mother in law?
 A. Remember, she will be family. ALWAYS treat your mother in law with respect if you have any respect for your soon to be husband. She is his mother, and most of the time it means that she is one of the most important people in his life. If he feels like you and his mom dont get along, he will feel uneasy. Feeling like a mediator between two important women isnt fun! Can you imagine if he was on edge around your mom? Wouldn't it make you feel bad? So please, be kind and respectful.

Now what happens after marriage?

Your mom in law will always be there. What if you dont like your mother in law? Can you tell him? Should you keep your mouth shut? I will try, to the best of my ability, to answer these questions.

1. What made you dislike your mom in law?

         - Do your personalities clash?

         - Is she mean to you?

         - Is she unfair?

         - Does your husband allocate to much time for her?

         - Do you feel she is ALWAYS there?

Most of the time, from my experience, a mother in law evokes jealousy. Why? Because almost every man loves their mom to high heavens, and you feel like the love is unfairly distributed. "But IM the new woman! IM important too! IM going to be the mother of your children! IM the one you chose to spend the rest of your life with! ME ME ME! I I I! I DESERVE MORE LOVE!" These are all the thoughts that go through your head, and for right reason! But guess what your mother in law is thinking... "IM the one who raise you! IM the one who was here first and from the begining. IM the one who loves you unconditionality. Without ME you wouldn't be here! IM more important! I DESERVE MORE LOVE!" Women are very interesting. We compete with each other for male attention NO MATTER WHAT. So what to do?

1. You can tell him that you want to be his priority. I dont suggest it though because when you make a man feel like he owes you, he will do the complete opposite. 

2. You can keep your mouth shut. Not a great idea either. This way, he will never know how you feel and you will be exhausted from pretending that everything is okay.

3. You can calmly explain that you are his wife, and would like some respect. BINGO. But make sure to highlight the fact that you never want to compete with his mom!

Anyway, those are my two cents about mother in laws.

Hope it gave you some ideas! HAVE A GREAT DAY!