What To Do Before Finding Someone- First Chapter Of My Book!

So, I have started writing a book, and I would like to post the preface as well as the first chapter in this blog. This chapter focuses on what one must do before trying to find "the one." This is the only chapter I will be posting on the blog because I hope to someday publish this self-help book.

I hope you guys enjoy, and I am sorry I haven't been posting anything for a while!!!!

Preface

I know from experience that relationships require a lot of work. What is even more frustrating, is that not only do relationships require maintenance work, but also work before you find a relationship. I think of a relationship as if it were a job. It requires a lot of investing in yourself, a lot of upkeep and a lot of stress. Think of your partner as your customer. You must sell him your product (yourself) when you first meet him, then you must keep him interested enough to come back (to get dates).

Enjoy this book and remember, everybody has the tools to find love and make it last.

Chapter One: Improving yourself

Before you go and look for someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must look in the mirror. What do you see? Do you see someone who is perfect in every way, including looks, personality and intelligence, or do you need to invest in yourself and make yourself better? If you found that you are perfect in every way, look at the checklist below. If you don’t meet certain criteria on this list, it means that you need to work on it.

• My hair is in perfect shape. (Length, color, shape)
•         My face is clear and clean. (No zits or pimples, no blemishes.)
•         My body is one that I am comfortable in.
•         My closet is full of beautiful clothes.
•         I am not insecure about myself.
•         I am open minded.
•         I am kind and caring.
•         I consider myself smart.
•         I can keep a conversation going.
•         I am NOT too picky.

If you have not checked 2 or more things from the above checklist, listen closely. First of all, you are wonderful. Keep repeating that to yourself day after day until you believe it. Second, you can be better. If you listen to my tips on how to improve yourself, you will be the best you can be, and it will be great. So here are some ways to make yourself the hottest thing that walked this earth:

Looks:

Now many people will continuously argue the point I am going to try to make. Looks are important. They are very important. My cousin has always argued with me on this point because she strongly believes that if a guy or girl is to love you, he or she should love you for who you are, not how you look. Well here is a news flash that all of you should know:

!!!LOOKS ARE WHAT SELL YOU!!!

If you must, tattoo it on your head so that you can see this sentence every time you look in the mirror. The truth, as brutal as it is, is that no guy or girl will go for someone who looks like they don’t care about themselves. As they say, “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover,” but everyone still does. Even if you have a wonderful personality and no cover to sell that, no one will look twice. But don’t be discouraged! I know I might sound like one hell of a bitch, but I am here to help you. There are many things you can do to improve your looks.

First of all, focus on your face. If it is blemished, buy creams and face washes that will get rid of them. I know it costs a bit of money, but you are investing in yourself and I guarantee you that you will not be sorry.

Second, if you are a woman, start wearing makeup. Some girls hate makeup and I understand that, but a little bit of makeup goes a long way. Now I am definitely NOT talking about caking on a lot of makeup, because that looks terrible. I am trying to introduce the idea of natural makeup with simple outlining of the eyes for them to stand out. No coverup is needed if you have clear skin. Lipgloss is also something I would not recommend because it looks greasy. Just try to make your features brighter.

Now if you are a man, you obviously don’t need makeup. What you do need however, is a clear face that is well groomed. A rugged look is not sexy unless you know how to achieve a specific rugged look.

Intelligence:

Yes, intelligence is important even when it comes to finding someone. There is a very good reason why intelligence is key. The reason is that if you are intelligent enough and know things, you will not run out of things to talk about on your date. You don’t want to sit in silence while on a date right? That would just be awkward. Intelligence is also important in later life. Let’s say you meet the perfect person, you are engaged to them, you marry them. Then they need your advice on how to do something or what decision to make. If you can’t give an answer, it will be awkward. 

Personality:

Now this is key. If you are a beautiful person with Einstein’s brain and a disgusting personality, your relationships will NOT last. You must know that after a while, your looks will be meaningless to the person you are with, and your intelligence will not be as appreciated. Personality on the other hand is the thing that holds the relationship together after 5 years. 

Being kind and caring is key. If you are able to relate to your partner in the future and care for him/her, he or she will stay with you for as long as you want. If you act like a monster 24/7, your partner will get fed up in the end and will get rid of you. 

Now many of you will think, “This bitch is crazy, I can’t change my personality because I was born this way!” That is not true in any way shape or form. You can change your personality as easily as you can change your underwear. You need to want it. You need to practice it. You need to transform yourself.

I know you can do it and so do you.

This chapter was a little rough on you and I understand that but bear with me. Just learn to trust me enough to trust that my advice will benefit you and your love life. 

On the next page, you can put your before and after picture, to see what dramatic changes you have gone through. You can also write how you are feeling about yourself and your personality. 

I hope you guys enjoyed this blog, and I really hope it helps all of you who are looking for that special someone!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!