It has been ages since I wrote last, but a lot has been going on. Firstly, my little baby boy was born on February 1 and he is so so handsome!
Before I start, I would like to just take note of the fact that this is a relationship and wedding blog. So I shall be writing about that rather than trying to go off topic.
So a few months ago, my cousin/best friend got engaged. And there I am, reliving the wedding planning phase through her. Let me tell you, when you are planning your own wedding you get so caught up that you change your perception of what it is really about. When I see her planning her wedding, I realized just how stressful it is. Firstly, you feel like you need to please everybody, and the truth is, that can never be done. Someone will ALWAYS be dissapointed. What you have to remember is that the wedding day is about YOU and your PARTNER, not about the people who attend. Second, I realized that there are women who are bridezillas. Yes, my cousin is one of them. She wants everything to be perfect (ranging from how the venue will look to how she wants people to dress). The reality is, however, that you cannot possibly control everything. You cant put yourself through stress to make everything "perfect".
So far, I have given two tips:
1. Dont try to make everyone happy
2. Dont try to control everything.
Finally, and most importantly, I believe, is the idea that wedding planning can be a tremendous stress on the relatuionshp. Its true! So the Tip of the Day is: REMEMBER THAT A WEDDING IS A PARTY! It really is only about you and your partner, nothing else matters!
Dont make your wedding planning phase a final step in your relationship. Wedding planning is stressful and emotional, but you need to keep it separate from you and your partner!
HAVE A GREAT DAY AND HAPPY FRIDAY!
I understand everything that you have said, but I have one problem. Yes, a wedding is in fact a party, but where is that fine line dividing the event from becoming a "party" (house party) and something more special and truly a one time blow out?
ReplyDeleteGood question. In this case, you worrying is in vein. Let me explain my dear cousin.. A house party and a wedding are completely different and you don't have to let people know that it is different. Everyone knows that a wedding is a formal event that happens once. Providing a dress code is important. As you have done. But over worrying that someone might wear a cocktail dress is a minuscule problems. Believe you me that when the day of the wedding comes, you will forget about everyone but your fiancé!
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