Being with yourself is sometimes the best thing

As I said before, fighting is healthy if done in the right way. But lets say the fight just happened, how do you make up or cool down? Well here are some ways I know.

1. Isolate yourself for a few hours. It sounds bad, but sometimes you need time to think. I am doing this right this moment and it helps immensly. Firstly, your guy will not be there to provoke more negative emotions. Secondly, you will have time to breathe and think through the argument and cool off. Lastly, you will have time to focus on other things, (for me its writing this blog), and you will slowly put the fight in the back of your mind.

2. Don't be too stubborn. If he says sorry, forgive and forget. Let it go. I know that sometimes its nice to feel powerful and what ends up happening is that you start abusing that power and it develops in another fight. Just let it go, don't try to be the one who gets the last word.

3. Cry. If you feel like you need to cry, do so. But only when you are sure your guy can't see. Once again, crying infront of him will make him feel very bad and you don't want to have to upset him more than he already is. I know sometimes you cant help it and cry infornt of him. If you can hold off the tears, do so. When you cry in private, you can cry more because you wont be as emberassed and you can let all that emotion out. Crying is cleansing yourself.

This is a very short blog, but I hope it has advice that will help you in this situation. I know that I feel pretty bad right now, and I am trying to follow my own advice. I wont say exactly what happened, but all I will say is that sometimes you need to be with yourself to calm down.

Hope this helps!