Fighting is Frustrating

Now all of us get into a fight with the one we love right? We scream and we yell, and sometimes, we even cry, (whether its tears of true and deep pain or "fake" tears to make our guy feel sorry for us). The reasons for fighting vary greatly, and sometimes the fights are really unnecessary. But how do we handle these situations? I know that I either go completely crazy and start yelling until I upset MYSELF and start crying, or I shut down and don't say anything at all until I can't take it anymore, and I blow up. Neither of these situations are healthy. Here are some ways you can handle a fight without blowing it out of proportion.

1. Never, ever, EVER fake cry. Its a bad habit. First of all, you are lying to both your guy and yourself. If you are not upset enough to spill real tears, don't do it. Now I completely understand when you feel like you must make yourself cry for either or both of these reasons:
                                            a) You want your guy to feel sorry for you.
                                            b) You want your guy to feel guilty.

Its satisfying to know that you have such control and power over him, but I still stress the fact that you shouldn't do it. A lie is a lie.

2. Don't blow up! I know you sometimes want to throw a flat iron at your guy when he pisses you off, and I admit that sometimes the guy deserves worse than that, but still, don't blow up! Communication is key. You must learn to talk to your love calmly instead of killing him. He will take you more seriously if you speak in a calm manner because it will be more mature. (A smack on the face once or twice won't hurt though, but only when you are REALLY angry!)

3. Don't do what I do. Don't hold your feelings in. If you hold it all in, in the end you will blow up worse than you would have in the beginning. A flat iron hitting him in the face will be the least of his problems if you blow up after holding your feelings in. What's worse is that you might not blow up, and instead, resent him which is very unhealthy.

 Fights are healthy, but be sure you know how to handle them!