Your Life Is Not All About Him, Its About You Too!

Everyone wants a healthy, happy relationship, correct? It seems, nowadays, that many girls (including myself a few weeks ago) believe that a healthy relationship means that you should hang out only with your guy. That belief is actually extremely unhealthy, especially if you are getting married soon. The reason is that after a while, even if you LIKE being only around your guy, you will get annoyed of it. It doesn't mean that you will stop loving him or anything remotely close to that. It simply means that you need to make out time to hang out with your girls, because they will understand you in ways your guy wont. There are several reasons girls sometimes only hang out with their guy:

1. The guy is against his girl being away from him
2. The girl is scared the guy will get mad if she leaves him for a few hours.
3. The girl isn't as comfortable around other people the way she is comfortable with her guy.
4. The girl wants to be a "good" wife, and prove to the guy that she needs no one but him.

The first reason is very unhealthy. Even though you might see it as your guy being protective because he loves you, it wont make your relationship with him stronger. After a while, you will want to break free, and when you do, it will drive him crazy.

The second reason is simply untrue. If your guy tells you that he is okay with you hanging out with your girlfriends, then he means it. Its healthy to get away from him sometimes and talk about girl stuff. You should do it, and after a while, you will be comfortable with it.

The third reason is understandable. But you must know that life and success is all about networking. If you cant be around your girlfriends because you aren't comfortable, how will you be around people who can make you successful? You need to get over your wants and do what's healthy.

The fourth reason is also untrue. A "good" wife doesn't mean not having a life of your own. What defines a good wife is not sitting at home, but being able to balance between personal life and a life together. Let him know that he has nothing to worry about and that you love him. You will be a good wife even if you hang out with your girlfriends.

A few weeks ago I was not okay with hanging out with my friends because of most of the reasons I listed above. Today however, I decided to get over myself and be with them for the day. Let me tell you, it is so much fun and it is such a healthy thing to do! You get to talk about girl stuff without worrying that you are boring someone to death!

Remember, even though he is your main focus, you should focus on your wants and needs too. A day with your girls is something every girl needs!