Change: We don't like it, but its for the better.

Today I found out that me and Jonathan have to face a big change! Our wedding date is now not what we thought it would be, and we might need to have a wedding on two days instead of one. Honestly, I hate change. It upsets me deeply and today this change made me want to just get married in court and not go through the whole process of a ceremony and reception. But let me tell you, girls, sometimes change can be good.

Firstly, it made me realize that its not the end of the world if the wedding date is different than I had initially presumed. Its just one day. What is important is the rest of the marriage. Secondly, change is sometimes good. There are valid reasons for why we need to change the date, and Jonathan's mother made it very clear to me what those reasons are. Even though the idea of having a two day wedding doesn't appeal to me, I will need to get over it. So here are some tips of how you should deal with change when it comes to your wedding.

Tip 1: 
Don't overreact. It isn't healthy for you or the relationship. Today, I overreacted and right now I feel pretty stupid because it isn't such a big deal. After all, it is only one day. Why jeapordize the relationship because of that?


Tip 2: 
As Jonathan tells me over and over and over again, the lines of communication must be open. I tend to close up when I am mad or upset, and keep my feelings in until the day I blow up. You must learn how to communicate and express your feelings and opinions. Good communication = Happy relationship.

Tip 3: 
Consider the change as a good thing. Think positive. If there must be change made, it isn't the end of the world. Maybe its for the better. Stay positive. Positive outlook on life = Happy life.

Tip 4: 
Think logically. Is the change so bad that it will ruin your relationship and your life? Is it worth fighting over? Unless the change is where the wedding is called off, don't stress too much about it.

Tip 5:
Remember, a wedding is not the most important thing in your life, the relationship is. Just work towards the bigger goal: making your relationship as strong as it can be.

I hope this helps. I know change is frustrating, especially if you have your mind set on something for a while. But it isn't the end of the world. Don't stress too much. Live for the relationship, not the wedding!