Compromise is Classy

I don't know about you, but I am the type of person that would rather make everyone else happy and myself miserable than the other way around. This is not the right thing to do however, because after a while, you will start to resent those people to the point of no return. The best thing to do is to compromise. Not only will it help you in the planning process of a wedding, but it will also help your marriage. Compromise is everything. Here is a personal story that happened today.

Jonathan, his mother and I went to the hotel today where we are supposed to get married. Firstly, we had to change the date because the date we picked originally would not work. This is stressful, but after talking to his mother, I understood why the date would need to be changed. What ended up happening was that we are now getting married almost 20 days earlier than we were supposed to! Its great news and its all thanks to compromise. The second issue consisted of the fact that we couldn't decide whether to do the wedding on one or two days. I was very much against the two day wedding because I thought it would be too long. After talking to Jonathan's mother however, I realized that two days is a great idea. In the end, I am the happiest person ever. All thanks to compromise. Here are some tips and tricks of how to compromise the healthy way.

1. Don't be stubborn. Sometimes the other person has a good idea and you should listen. If you don't like the idea, explain to the person what exactly it is that you don't like and try to work around it.

2. When there are two opposing opinions that are very strong, it doesn't mean that either is right. Compromise is about giving up a part of your dream and the other person giving up a part of theirs. In the end, you reach a middle that is good for both of you, or as some call it, the best of both worlds.

3. If you are dealing with the wedding, and the strong opinion number two is coming from your fiance's mother, father or relative, you must be respectful. Don't push your own opinion on them because this will come off as disrespectful. Your future husband must know that you are going to be a good wife who can get along with the people he loves.

These are all the tips I have today, and I hope that they help and make sense. GOOD LUCK!