Overprotective Fathers vs. Daughters Inlove

Being a girl is hard, and many would argue this point. In society, we are considered the weaker link therefore a man always feels compelled to protect us, especially if that man is our father. I have a very interesting story to share today. About a year and a half ago I was not allowed to date because my dad was so strict. Then I started dating Jonathan and thankfully, my dad was okay with it. When we got engaged, my dad seemed to be happy with me. Finally, when I asked my father the premision to live with Jonathan, he understood that this is a natural part of life and let me. It is very nice to have the approval of your father, especially if you know that your dad is extremely protective and sceptical about the whole love thing. Today, my dad mentioned something I will never forget. I wont say exactly what it is, but what I will say is that he finally understood that I am growing up and that I am mature enough to make my own decisions in life. Some of us, however, are not so lucky.

Some girls have a father who holds strong to his beliefs and is overprotective to the point where the girl cant live her own life without fearing that her father will dissaprove. We all want our parents, especially our dads to approve of our decisions in life. It is hard to keep secrets and even harder to lie because in the end, you will feel bad about it. So here are a few tips on how to get your dad to understand that you are growing up and that you can handle the stress of a relationship.

1. Talk to your dad. Be open with him. Don't keep secrets and try to explain to him that you are mature enough to handle such a big thing. He might be reluctant at first, but after a while he will understand.

2. Dont raise your voice at your father. Screaming is a sign of immaturity. It is also a sign that you cant control your emotions, and if you cant handle yourself, how will you handle a relationship? You must prove to your dad that you are mature by keeping calm. If your father still dissaproves of your decision to be in a relationship, leave him alone. Don't push your opinions on him. Let your dad think things through and after a while he will be on board with you.

3. Make your dad feel involved. A thank you or an I love you goes a long way. You are his little girl, and you will always be that. Make your dad feel as though he is needed because he is. Know that when you are in a relationship, your dad will feel jealousy and sadness because he will feel as if he is losing his precious girl. Make him feel like he is still number one and ask for his advice and opinions. He will be glad to give good advice to you.

4. Dont talk about your relationship everytime you talk to your dad unless he asks. I know you are excited, but it can get tiering for him. Respect your dad and understand that for him it is a hard time, even though for you it is a joyous one.

5. If your dad agreed to meet with your guy for the first time or to hang out with him (if your dad knows your guy), dont hang yourself on your man. It is not appropriate to show so much affection infront of your parents, especially your father. It will only piss your dad off and he wont want to see your guy's face ever again.

So these are the tips on how to handle your father when he doesnt want to deal with the idea of you being in a relationship. Remember girls, your dad is the number one man in your life. He raised you and he supported you, whether it be physically or mentally it doesnt matter.

 Have fun breaking the news to your dad!